Age difference for mariage?!!

[emosinna]

Should their be any age differenec betwene men and woman when they marry ? If yes, then what should it be?What is the best age difference for husbandand wife?

[David-M]

I'm curious...why are you asking this question? Are you considering marriange and have others objecting?

There is no best age difference for marriage. The reason is that personality and not age determines a good marriage. If the goal is to procreate and raise children effectively than that is a different matter altogether but you asked about marriage.

Should there be a law against marrying someone who is much older or younger? No...its nobody else's business to decide...period. Would you want somebody else making personal decisions for you about your life?

Too many people in this world think they know more than others and therefore should have the power to make decisions for others. In a nutshell, too many people have their noses in others personal lives.

If a 60 year wants to marry an 18 year old then so be it.....As long as they both want the same thing then fine. It's really nobody else's damn business.

[bob]

The odds of marriage success are about 10 percent.
10 percent is the odds of making her pregnant too.
There never is any possible conceivable reason for a guy to marry.
A reason may be if a guy wants to be trapped and controlled. He will n
need to get suppress his anger despite constant attack.
Good luck if you try.
My experance tells women are as wild in sex as guys---deal with it

[David-M]

The odds of marriage success are about 10 percent.
10 percent is the odds of making her pregnant too.
There never is any possible conceivable reason for a guy to marry.
A reason may be if a guy wants to be trapped and controlled. He will n
need to get suppress his anger despite constant attack.
Good luck if you try.
My experance tells women are as wild in sex as guys---deal with it

Seems the odds of a first time poster coming back to read the efforts people put into answering him are about the same... 10%

[heyhey]

The odds of marriage success are about 10 percent.
10 percent is the odds of making her pregnant too.
There never is any possible conceivable reason for a guy to marry.
A reason may be if a guy wants to be trapped and controlled. He will n
need to get suppress his anger despite constant attack.
Good luck if you try.
My experance tells women are as wild in sex as guys---deal with it
It's more like 50% I think

I think the secret is not the difference.. just dont get married too young period.. both partners...

Marriage is a real commitment that requires wisdom and patience acquired with age IMO... and sowing your oats and following your dreams a little before getting pidgeoned holed from a relationship helps too...

[David-M]

I have heard the same stat that the divorce rate is closer to 50%.

[mbossman2]

the divorce rate, across the whole population is 50%.

Heyhey is dead on: as age at marriage increases, the likelihood of divorce drops:

Age at marriage for those who divorce in America
Age........................Women.....Men
Under 20 years old......27.6%...11.7%
20 to 24 years old.......36.6%....38.8%
25 to 29 years old.......16.4%....22.3%
30 to 34 years old........8.5%.....11.6%
35 to 39 years old........5.1%.......6.5%

Canadian divorce rate is about the same, Austrailia is a little bit less (47%), Japan is 27%, Singapore is 10% and india is approximately 1%

Divorce rates:
Divorce rate per 1,000 population:
Thailand: 0.58
China: 0.79
Singapore: 0.8
Korea: 0.88
Finland: 1.85
Canada: 2.46
Australia: 2.52
New Zealand: 2.63
Denmark: 2.81
United Kingdom: 3.08
Russia: 3.36
Puerto Rico: 4.47
US: 4.95

http://www.divorcerate.org/

[David-M]

If there is such a thing, it looks like the sweet spot for marriage in this country is between 25 and 29...which makes sense from what I have seen. The statistics alone say it is not a good idea to get married before 25. This makes sense since things in peoples lives are changing so dramatically before this age and people themselves change quite a bit as well before 25.

The next obvious question is why is the divorce rate so high in the US? I have my own ideas but I know it would be stirring up a hornets nest. It would be interesting to hear others theories.

[mbossman2]

The next obvious question is why is the divorce rate so high in the US? I have my own ideas but I know it would be stirring up a hornets nest. It would be interesting to hear others theories.

it's easy (process wise). We are a country with far too many infants masquerading as adults.

[David-M]

I think much of it has to do with ultra high expectations. What we are being taught through the marketing media and our culture in general, is that what we perceive as normal is actually very high standards of, income, wealth, social status, and interactive behaviors between husband and wife.

When a young married couples exceedingly high standards do not match up to reality, then divorces occur. "What do you mean we can't afford a Lexus?" "...those are not the images I am seeing on TV. Our friends are buying nice cars. I just had a $100,000 wedding for gawd sakes!"

It's only when we get a little older and gain a little more life experience that we are able to discern media and cultural hype from reality.

You already hit on bossman, these unrealistic expectations are a form of immaturity.

Relating to the immaturity, and here comes the hornets nest, American women have become little princesses who expect more than reality can possibly provide for them. Many of them have become mean and hostile towards men in the name of becoming a feminist. It is hip and cool to be this way towards men..it has become a societal norm. It is in our culture to put down men in advertising and the culture in general. Putting down men is even seen as funny at times. The respect between men and women as fellow humans is quickly vanishing. Does this sort of casual cultural disrespect encourage the bonding between a man and woman?...no, it does just the opposite...aka divorce.

My wife pointed this out to me, who is not from this country originally, how American women have such disgust, high expectations and disrespect for men. I asked her if she saw as much disrespect from men towards women and she said no..its nowhere close. The imbalance is dramatic.

Apparently, sometimes you have to have lived outside the forest to see through the trees.

[mbossman2]

I see these kids coming out of college and expecting to be paid mid level management pay, with upper management perks without the requisite knowledge and experience.

Too many people telling them that they are "special" and shielding them from failure and disappointment so they come out without any real disappointment in their lives. failure is, in my book, far more important that succeeding.

Now couple that with a disposable mentality and you have a real issue (not just applicable to marriage but a lot of other things too - life comes to mind)

[jedi_knight01]

Lets see I married at 21, my wife was 19, engaged after 2 weeks, married in 6 months, happily married 20+ yrs, so I guess I don't fall into the fail category

[David-M]

Jedi,
Its nice to read of exceptions to what typically happens. :)

[bob]

Ok I will play with statistics

Do you use the first marriage as the rate and exclude second marriage success? If so 50% would be right. Especially if you calculate it yearly :cool:
Does a marriage where one is first and the other was divorced count as a success?
Are we counting rates for women or men? I admit I guessed but 50% is not closer than my experience but then again I never married. :eek:

Come to think about it does divorce by murder of spouce count? :D